Those who seek therapy are dealing with problems within their family or primary support group. Seeking a family conflict therapist or strategies to help mitigate your problems can help improve relationships. Here are a few steps you can take to resolve relational conflict.
1. Listen to the person carefully.
Use empathetic listening to hear the person out and consider their perspective. Be sure not to interrupt them when they are explaining how they feel. Staying calm during an argument can be challenging, but it is crucial when it comes to resolving the issue in a healthy manner.
2. Take a break from the situation when you need it.
When emotions are running high, it is unlikely that a conflict will be resolved effectively. To avoid verbal or physical confrontations, try stepping away from the situation for a short while to allow emotions to cool down. This can help to defuse the situation and prevent it from escalating further.
3. Concentrate on the root of the problem, not the person you’re arguing with.
When you’re arguing with someone close to you, it is likely because the needs of a person are not being met. Focus on the issue itself and think about why the person feels a certain way. For example, if your child is upset that you missed their dance recital due to work, they may want you to designate more time towards them and less towards your job. It’s important to put yourself in their shoes.
4. Communication is key
Using “I” statements is very effective when it comes to developing your interpersonal skills and resolving relational issues. A family conflict therapist can help you develop helpful communication skills.
5. Find a way to control your emotions.
It can be challenging to think clearly and make the right decisions when your emotions are not regulated. If this happens, try to take a few deep breaths, or use other coping strategies to calm down. This will help manage your emotions and respond to the situation effectively.
6. Come to terms with your differences and apologize.
Always agreeing with one another is impossible. Disagreements are an inevitable part of life. Being open to compromise or agreeing to disagree can help you to find a resolution that benefits everyone.
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